On Approaching 40…Recommitting to Myself and My Family

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I remember those days; the ones when 40 seemed like an unattainable age – SO old and SO far away. 

“Those days when I was with my 40-something year old parents at a bar in college: they were so playful, yet so ridden with responsibility and a real life-likeness about them.  They were serious when they needed to be and fun when the time was right.  They were 40 something.”

As I turned 38 this year, I sometimes grapple with the approach of 40.  The binary of old and young swirls through my brain as I try to place myself somewhere on the spectrum.  I do the math – you know, “When Sidney is 15, I’ll be…”  Lord have mercy, can that be a day wrecker.  Sometimes I worry about having had my children later in life only because I want to see so much of THEIR lives.  The days are long, but the weeks and months are short.  The years?  They’ve somehow slipped right through my fingers.

But throughout all of those fleeting thoughts, I come to realize all that I have accomplished and how young and alive I feel.  I may be approaching 40 on a chronological scale, but I make it a goal to keep my mentality young and physically fit – both for my family and for myself.  And in a more tangible attempt to sort through the muddiness of these thoughts, I have come up with a list of commitments to follow as I approach 40.

  • Live each day in the moment and try not to get overwhelmed by what the future may look like.
  • Continue to work on shifting my mindset, so that exercising is less about what I gain physically, but more about what I gain mentally and how it will improve my time spent with my children as I get older.
  • Be intentional about letting go of the past and things that I cannot control, while also spending less time devoted to people, things or thoughts that do not bring me happiness.
  • Remind myself that MOST everyone is doing the best they can and that I have no right to judge anyone until I have walked a day in their shoes.
  • Seize moments and enable myself to reflect and learn from those moments – good or bad.
  • Enjoy more quiet and one-on-one time with my husband.
  • Make regular and meaningful dates with others who are important to me.
  • Continue to work on removing myself from the craziness and putting myself into the serene – however that may look.
  • Travel and explore.
  • Find ways to spend one-on-one time with each of my children, yet let go of that fear that I am not enough for each of them.
  • Become utterly selfish with some of my time because, as it turns out, I’ll never get it back.
  • Pay attention to sights and smells, and furthermore, take the time to truly take them in.

My goal here is not to overwhelm myself with unattainable tasks, but to take what I know to be true and be mindful of its implementation into my daily life.  I know I cannot stop myself from aging, but I can find peaceful and meaningful ways to embrace it.  At least for this decade.

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6 Responses to On Approaching 40…Recommitting to Myself and My Family

  1. Joe Seehusen July 17, 2017 at 9:23 am #

    Inspiring article, Casie! I turn 40 at the end of August and I feel everything you have mentioned. Keep up the good work!

    • Casie
      Casie July 26, 2017 at 12:41 pm #

      Thanks for the note, Joe! Happy upcoming birthday! Our 40s will be great; I’m sure of it!

  2. Gladys Quijano August 5, 2017 at 4:28 pm #

    Hi Casie,
    As an almost 42yr old mom of two I can relate. My husband works a lot but we try to have family time specifically during dinner when it allows us to share our daily ventures….good luck, you are doing great!

    • Casie
      Casie August 24, 2017 at 2:25 pm #

      Thank you so much for the note. Best of luck to you as well!

  3. Cathy August 12, 2017 at 12:03 am #

    I love this! Now 41 I see most of these goals I have also set for myself and my children as not just goals but a shift in our mentality of less stressful time planning and more what’s important to us.

    • Casie
      Casie August 24, 2017 at 2:24 pm #

      Thank you for the kind comment, Cathy. I have noticed that even since writing this post, I have to consistently remind myself to be present and thoughtful about my goals. Best of luck to you!