Celebrating Mixed-Race Couples on Loving Day!

You’ve probably never heard of “Loving Day,” but I’m sure you know of someone in your life whom it aims to celebrate. “Loving Day” was created to honor mixed-raced couples and to shine light upon the progress our society has made regarding the issue.  

It’s celebrated by many across the country (Find a celebration HEREon June 12, the anniversary of the Supreme Court ruling which abolished all anti-miscegenation laws (laws legalizing racial segregation in regards to marriage and intimate relationships)–allowing families like my own to lawfully exist anywhere in the United States.

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My Mixed-Race Family– photo: Lucid Photography by Amy Runge

You see, there was a time in our country–in the not too distant past–when marriages like mine were considered illegal, solely based on the colors of the bride and groom’s skin.  It wasn’t just taboo. Marrying outside of your race could actually land you time in the slammer!

But as Frederick Douglas once said, “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” And a struggle, there was…

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In the 1960’s, a young couple were wed in Washington DC. After their marriage, they settled in Virginia to begin their life together as husband and wife, only there was a problem.  According to the law, their skin colors were a few too many shades apart, and as such, in the middle of the night the police came ‘a knockin’.

The couple, Richard and Mildred Loving, were arrested and were sentenced to a year in jail. The law at the time stated that if a multiracial couple were punished equally then the punishment couldn’t be considered discrimination. To avoid jail time, the couple left their home in Virginia.

The Lovings were obviously upset, but they weren’t without hope.  They decided to fight against the archaic law, and on June 12, 1967, the United States Supreme Court ruled in their favor and struck down all anti-miscegenation laws throughout the country. Interracial marriage became legal!–although it was still considered scandalous.

Because of the Lovings’ determination to legalize their love, they paved the way for couples like my husband and I to follow our hearts and build a happy life, raising our children without fear of persecution. That’s not to say we haven’t faced our fair share of prejudice, no court ruling will ever eradicate that, but it does grant us liberty–and for that, I am thankful!

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Happy Loving Day!

If, like me, you’re also in an interracial relationship/marriage–or even if you’re not— and would like more information on Loving Day and it’s history, you can visit the the Loving Day website HERE.  If you feel inclined, you can  also sign the petition to make Loving Day a federally observed holiday.

And if nothing else, a share on social media–or right here, in the comments–about Loving Day and how it affects you and your family would be equally welcomed!  

 

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4 Responses to Celebrating Mixed-Race Couples on Loving Day!

  1. Durgesh Kalya June 13, 2016 at 7:54 am #

    This country surprises me every time I turn around a nook, a corner, there are so many things hidden away from everyone and yet they become known to everyone by folks like you. History is a very essential part of every citizen who has the right to exercise their rights to marry, pursue careers and take part in various practices of free market, education and more. It was only in 1967 that it became acceptable in the US, and so are other 100s of laws that were passed in the recent times and yet I see ‘us’ pointing fingers at other nations (at the same time, some folks provide their support and shoulders) who are dealing with the same type of human rights issues. And not to forget, America still has a lot of work to do for Moms and Dads who are still discriminated in the workforce because they are pregnant, had kids, or taking care of kids should be considered as a trait and not a career fault. Anyways,

    We are not a racial couple, but in our country, we call it Inter-Cast. Which for us , did not mean a thing and so we are happy family. We have gone through similar discriminations, struggles and more folks will and will continue until the understanding of oneness becomes evident in smaller communities.

    Laws are to protect but communities who understand and support such sentiments are important keys to successful marriages and broader understandings of staying happy.

    • sharimukherjee
      sharimukherjee June 15, 2016 at 6:44 pm #

      Durgesh,

      I completely understand the discrimination you also face. My in-laws had a love marriage when love marriages were considered very taboo–even more, they also married inter-caste. I know they faced many struggles but thankfully their love prevailed!

      You are right…we have come a long way, but there is still so much room for progress. Hopefully one day!

  2. Jenna Stefanatos July 13, 2016 at 2:38 am #

    Thank you for your blog. It helped my fiance and I decide that Rochester was a place we could travel from KC, as we have experienced places that still that are not accepting of inter-racial couples. We plan on visiting this weekend. Any places you would recommend we see visit or try would be appreciative.

    Thanks,
    Jenna S.

    • Shari
      Shari July 13, 2016 at 2:31 pm #

      Hello Jenna~! I’m glad that reading the blog helped you with your decision. I’ve found Rochester to be a very accepting and open-minded community filled with tons of diversity. That’s not to say there isn’t the occasional problem–but really my husband and I have experienced very little hate towards our relationship.

      I also think when you’re in an Inter-racial relationship you really do have to develop a thick skin. Just remember if someone treats you unfairly because of your relationship–their actions/comments do not define you. They define THEM.

      Enjoy your time in Rochester!